Let my clients tell you about their experience with the DateWise program and coaching.

“After my husband passed away, I knew I wanted a change, but I just had no idea how to get there. Jen’s program and coaching gave me the confidence to move forward with dating after 32 wonderful years of marriage. It gave me the tools to help me figure out what I wanted in my life and how to get there.
Knowing Jen was available as a sounding board helped boost my confidence. Her style is very straightforward and firm, yet at the same time supportive—she always gently held me accountable.
The biggest thing was getting clear about what I was looking for in a new relationship. Putting that on paper kept me focused throughout the dating process—something that I’d never done before.
Making space for someone else was important, since I am in a slightly different situation than most women, being a widow. I didn’t realize I needed to both physically and mentally clear space for someone new. This helped me to recreate a new me, unencumbered by the spouse I was in the past.”
DeborahDeborah, age 56, is in a committed relationship with Michael and they live in Seattle.
“The small things Jen’s program gave me were some of the most important. Writing out and deeply thinking about specific feelings helped me realize my past pattern of picking the wrong types of men. It helped me figure out why I was reacting to certain dating and relationship situations, and how to change behaviors that were not positive or healthy.
This process helped me hold myself accountable for making decisions that are best for me. It helped me realize I am a gift for my partner and the value I bring to the relationship.
Jen’s coaching was supportive, positive, caring and professional. I appreciated the honest and direct advice. I felt like she truly cared about my dating process and finding a true, loving mate. We had some good laughs along the way as well!”
sashaSasha, age 40, is in a committed relationship and lives in Seattle.
“Jen’s program helped by giving me a sense that dating again did not have to feel out of control or random. I had to dig deep and work to understand what was behind my past choices. I realized I have biases about who appeals to me versus who would be a good partner for me.
The Seven Steps provided me a structure to work through and helped clarify what I want in a long-term relationship, before the dating starts. Having a game plan makes me feel I am in control of the process.
Reviewing my target behaviors has helped me hone in on behaviors and beliefs that have not worked for me in the past. Thinking about what hasn’t worked or “deal breakers,” and “flipping” them into positives helped me look for what is good in potential partners.
Jen provides great tools and personal guidance for getting out there, knowing what you want and having some solid stepping stones along the way. As a coach she is an intuitive listener and her feedback is always what I need in terms of dating.”
Rebecca, age 57, is currently dating and lives in Seattle.

“Before working with Jen, I was a little bit stymied by how to write my profile, how to set up a date, what to talk about and how to make a graceful exit. But Jen had a lot of concrete and practical advice that allowed me to think it through and realize that it was totally doable.

Knowing that I had a coaching session with Jen spurred me to finish writing my profile and actually sign up for dating sites. Without her coaching, I don’t think I would have done it by now—as I had been planning to do it since about 2010. I knew that talking to Jen would be engaging and help me overcome my hurdles—it was more than just a monitoring device.

Envisioning a relationship worth working for was very important to me. I have a demanding schedule and enough good friends who I love spending time with, so much so, that it’s a challenge for me to think about setting aside time to meet someone new. However, the wonderful exercise for envisioning the ideal and real relationship and writing a narrative to set my intentions helped me get over that enough to actually go out on several dates and I’m sticking with it.

Jen’s coaching style is directive, yet responsive to me and my situation. At the same time, she is not judgmental. In general, it’s great fun to talk to Jen about dating, relationships, love, and all that surrounds those topics because she is smart, thoughtful and engaged.

elizabethElizabeth, age 51, is currently dating and lives in Washington, D.C.