Copy of follow messages after each session
May 10, 2016 at 12:08 pm
FOLLOW UP FROM TODAY’S CALL 5/10/16
Hi Kelly, Good call this morning. Here are the follow up items we discussed:
* Try the exercise in the Self Esteem Tool. If it feels hard, then skip it and go ahead with Exercises D & E in step 2. Writing about the Wonderful You & Creating Your Pedestal. If you’re comfortable, get input from others you trust to describe things about you that are great. Sometimes we need to hear it from others when we can’t see it ourselves.
* Consider documenting Letting Go/Moving Forward for Jack/Paul.
* Update your Target Behaviors & Goals.
* Document your Aha Moments in your online DateWise Personal Journal. That way it’s helpful for me to see them too. Test your entry first to make sure it’s saving properly.
* Read the other 2 sets of tools: My Must-Have Dating Tools and Tools for Finding the Right Words. Both contain some great articles that might help you work through some of the doubt you’re feeling.
Continue:
* Practice “when you say/do…I feel…” Try it with other people.
* Continue with Seven Levels of Intimacy.
* Notice how you’re feeling when you see your family…just see if you can identify the emotion and where you’re feeling it in your body. Only if you feel like trying.
I’ll see you on Wednesday 25 at 10am.
Jen
May 4, 2016 at 3:16 pm
TO DO BEFORE NEXT CALL TUESDAY 5/10 9AM
Hi Kelly, Here are the things you’ve agreed make sense to work on:
1. Practice expressing your feelings and emotions (both positive and not positive)…on your kids and friends. “When you say/do ________”, I feel “________”.
2. Briefly look through The Seven Levels of Intimacy book.
3. Do exercises in the Inner Critic Tool and Self-Esteem Tool. If the strategies in these tools aren’t really working for you, let me know.
If you get the above done, then also consider the following:
4. Continue to work on Letting Go of past relationships.
5. Document any “aha moments” in your Personal Journal. Again, do a short test to make sure it’s saving properly.
Keep up the work. You’re doing a great job!
Jen
April 23, 2016 at 8:15 am
FOLLOW UP SESSION 1 ON 4 21 16
Summary of things to do before our next session:
1. Start to work on writing about Letting Go – Moving forward.
2. Processes feelings & emotions. Process built up resentment and anger. Practice getting present with what you’re feeling in your body.
3. Learn more about emotional unavailability and fear of intimacy.
4. Start working on knocking down your inner critic voice and creating stronger self esteem.
5. Come up with creative way to celebrate you.
6. Work through Step 2 and start putting together your change plans for each of your target behaviors.
7. Add to Target Behaviors as we discussed.
Follow up call on Thursday 28th to schedule.