Why do I [describe the pattern]? YES! I’m going to read the sample scripts and get some ideas. I’ve been practicing on dates a few times already. Dates that I didn’t think were going anywhere, just to get practice. FUCKING AWESOME. It’s a messed up pattern.
Potential positives of not changing my pattern:
Potential negatives of not changing my pattern:
Potential positives of changing my pattern:
Potential negatives of changing my pattern:
What can I do to learn about my pattern and who can I discuss this with?
Am I ready to declare my commitment to change?
What can I do to prepare, such as what will I do and say differently than before?
How can I practice before I try this?
What if my action or conversation goes well?
What if it doesn’t go well? What might the consequence be?
When and where will I try out my new way of changing my pattern?
I’m letting go of my old pattern, and embracing the new one:
Where else in my life can I use this new pattern?
How do I reward myself for continuing the process of change?
Ways I slipped back to my old ways, and how I handled the relapse (if applicable):
What is difficult about maintaining my new pattern?
How do I feel about changing my pattern?