I think I will start with sharing my relationship plan and work on balancing our time together. My concern is that we may lose our own selves in this process. I know that’s a pattern for him and something we have spoken about and something he keeps in the back of his mind. I’m also worried for me – I have my structure and life and I really love it and I don’t want to lose parts of that while I begin dating someone exclusivity. So something for me is trying to find that balance. I would also like to take a trip together – a weekend somewhere to see how we do with that.
Write your ideas on how you will you test your relationship:Ask whether he knows what his emotional baggage and triggers are
Since I usually am quicker to know that I’m in love or love someone, wait for him to say it first (if I can) or use the less direct method of asking, “in the past, how have you known you were falling in love?”