Author Archives: Jen Girard

You Can’t Manifest Love—It Requires Action

by Jen Girard
The-Holstee-Manifesto

For our second year anniversary, I gave my partner Geoff a framed Holstee Manifesto.  What I like about it is that it encourages you to take action to change your life. If you want to be in a long-lasting and loving relationship, you often start out by thinking about it and imagining it in your mind. Many dating advice people and programs talk about this thinking as “manifesting love.” While this could be a good place to start, trust me, it’s not enough.  Read More

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Men who are “UNAVAILABLE”

by Jen Girard
Men Unavailable

I’d just turned forty, was single and dating a lot. But none of the men I was meeting seemed to be turning into long-term relationship material. What did they all have in common? They were all unavailable. Today, it’s crystal clear to me why this was happening, but at the time I was so incredibly frustrated and exhausted from riding this dating roller-coaster.
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What to do if you fear Intimacy (Part 2 of 3)

by Jen Girard

Intimacy 2
Now the hard work begins. The first step in overcoming fear of intimacy is to determine where you are on the spectrum. If your fear of intimacy feels extreme, you should seek professional help. It is difficult work, but it will be essential to your ability to develop and maintain a healthy long-term love relationship. Read More

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Can A Long-Term Relationship Keep You Healthy?

by Jen Girard

For better or for worse … in sickness and in health.

Studies show again and again that relationships are critical to our long-term mental and physical health. This WebMD article Does a Better Relationship Mean Better Health? discusses that when we are in a relationship with another person, our behaviors are less risky, we tend to stay more socially connected with others and we feel more supported. Basically, we tend to take “better care of ourselves when we have someone who is invested in our happiness.” Read More

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Can 36 Questions Lead to Love?

by Jen Girard
Questions to Love

I’ve heard from many people about a recent article in the New York Times, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This” by Mandy Len Catron. She looks at how psychologist Arthur Aron made two strangers fall in love in his laboratory more than 20 years ago by sitting face to face and answering “a series of increasingly personal questions, then they stare silently into each other’s eyes for four minutes.”  Here is a link to the 36 questions and a sample: Read More

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Is a Dating Coach Really Necessary?

by Jen Girard
Dating Coach

Most people need help and guidance when they’re trying something new, whether it’s finding yourself single at 40+ or changing your dating patterns. Whatever the case, we all could use a little help with finding love. But do we really need to hire a dating coach? The short answer is no: You don’t need coaching to be successful with dating and finding love. Read More

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The “relationship glue” that holds couples together

by Jen Girard
Relationship Glue

You wake up grumpy in the morning and can’t talk without your coffee, yet he understands and loves the grumpy you. Even though you get anxious and fret about your family get-togethers, he is there to support you and run interference because he knows your family is a little crazy. Now that’s long-lasting love. Read More

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